Four Agreements Journal
Communicating with ourselves, not taking things personally (#2) gives us the opportunity to look inward, to find and change the old arrangements and beliefs — most of the lies of our domestication in childhood — that involve us emotionally and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the “dream” of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift from Toltec Wisdom. If your faith creates deep happiness in you, then I say, keep it. If they cause trouble, if the beliefs of others are different, consciousness can leave you with the choice of what you believe and what you let go. Many of our convictions, our concepts, our agreements were nourished to us as “truth” when we were young, and we accepted them literally and completely. The beginning of the four chords is about how we were domesticated by our caregivers in a “dream” of life. The only dream they gave us was the one they lived, which they received most often from their parents, etc. I have neither read nor planned this book. I saw these four chords on the wall in a yoga teacher house and laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hyper-masculine ideas to improve us. They could improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they imply that ultimately we need more self-insurance.
Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the male strength), it is necessary to reconcile it with the softer outfit and to accept the maternity qualities of the deep feminine. Truly loving us for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to the non-judgment of ourselves and others, and a surprising impudence. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding that involves knowing us as an unlimited presence of Devine. Here is a spontaneous list of my 4 agreements: (1) Let yourself take a break – it is always important that the agreements carry the consequences you want. The word “agreements” is used to represent reality, reality and truth. It is the opposite that will lead to a judgment. I like what you`re saying. If you`ve written a book about your spontaneous chords, I`ll read it.
I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the author of the book. That is why I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explains why he/she thought the four chords meant that people were behaving ruthlessly and selfishly, I might have received an answer. As things stand, I agree with the idea that –Toltec or not — these principles are a healthy way of living and sticking to good practices supported by modern psychology: we can use the fourth agreement, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that “our best” varies from time to time, depending on our circumstances and our state of mind. The awareness of this fact leads to the realization that everything we do is our best moment, and this awareness can prevent us from having flags of ourselves if we are not up to an inappropriate level of perfection. Thank you, Allan, for sharing your wisdom. I am honored that someone of your stature would take the time to read my article and clarify the importance of the agreements. If I have to name four betrayals that I usually do to myself, will they be? We have to break many old arrangements and change a lot of domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone who hurts us or who is angry without judging to withdraw, defend, accuse, intellectualize, share their dream. As for intransition, this word certainly has the connotation of perfectionism, and if we take it that way, we would indeed go crazy.